Coaching Yourself

A part of my job as a psychologist is to teach people to coach themselves.  In order to teach something, I need to figure out how to do it myself—so I can give advice that is reasonably helpful.  While I try to take a less-is-more approach when it comes to advice,...

Holidays

I think most us are lowering the bar for this holiday season.  For me, the bar of peace & joy has never been much different during the holidays than the rest of the year.  At the risk of sounding like a calendar socialist, I tend to treat most days equally,...

Belonging

I used to take my evening walks across town, but now I stay away from campus because college students have proven to be as bad at spreading the virus as ultra conservatives.  Instead I walk through neighborhoods where I’m less likely to see other people. I choose to...

Teamwork

Our country is in the process of learning to become a better team.  All teams go through this process before they can achieve greatness.  Our country has yet to achieve greatness, even though a lot of people wear hats about how great we once were or how great we are...

Communication

My wife and I are the complete opposite when it comes to the radio.  She listens to it often and I don’t listen to it at all.  In a perfect NPR universe, everyone would be like her and no one would be like me.  I don’t blame her for having a bigger appetite for news...

Mindfulness

I found myself paying closer attention today to the things around me.  I think this is commonly referred to as mindfulness, even though there seems to be a bit of a spiritual misunderstanding that mindfulness is solely about feeling relaxed and peaceful.  Mindfulness...